Writing at the Intersection of Clarity, Creativity, and Real Life

This is a place to think out loud, slowly, and with care.

Essays, reflections, and short-form writing that explore decision-making, leadership, creativity, and the lived experience of navigating change. The focus is not instruction. It is observation. Not answers, but orientation.

Creative Adaptive Intelligence runs quietly through how choices are examined, pauses are held, and return is treated as intelligence.

Where real life meets real clarity and joy gets the last word.

Thriv Resources

It’s like she turns chaos into coherence without losing the human part.
— Michelle S.

A weekly note written for people who lead, create, and carry responsibility.

Not a recap. Not a sermon. A moment of grounding.
One email a week, designed to clarify rather than consume.

Subscribers receive reflections drawn from lived experience, current writing, and the quieter moments that tend to get lost in urgency. The tone is intentional. The cadence is human.

One intentional sip at a time.


The essays

This collection examines how clarity, discernment, and values-based choice show up in real life. They look closely at urgency, burnout, leadership pressure, rest, over-adaptation, and the long arc of decision-making over time.

Rather than defining concepts, the writing traces patterns.

Some pieces are personal. Others are observational. All are grounded in the same question:

What helps people move forward without losing themselves?

Featured Essays in Decision-Making in Uncertain Times:

Three foundational essays exploring why choosing feels harder right now and what kind of intelligence this moment is asking of us.

Essay I: Why Decision-Making Feels Broken

Examines the contemporary conditions that strain decision-making and explains why capable people experience fatigue, hesitation, and loss of orientation without personal failure.

Essay II: This Pause Is Intelligence at Work

Explores how Creative Adaptive Intelligence functions when certainty is unavailable, reframing pause, discernment, and orientation as active forms of intelligence rather than delay.

Essay III: The Intelligence That Returns

Describes the spiral pattern of mature decision-making, showing how revisiting questions reflects integration, boundary clarity, and evolved judgment rather than regression.

Keeping Reading

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Tired but Still Motivated

A compassionate reframe for sustainable success without burnout. And my hustle reflex is very confused right now …

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The Motivation Myth: When Motivation Isn’t Motivation

Ever wonder why your anxiety spikes right after inspiration hits? This is the story of what happened when mine did — and how Creative Adaptive Intelligence helped me change the pattern.
Inspired by TEDxBR, Jenn explores why inspiration triggered anxiety, how old patterns return, and how CAI helps you shift from panic to purposeful clarity.

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How Urgency Steals Your Best Energy

Urgency feels productive but often reroutes your best energy away from what matters. This essay examines how urgency disguises itself—and how clarity and structure restore rhythm.

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Why Hustle Isn’t the Answer. How Creative Adaptive Intelligence Helps You Thrive

Creative Adaptive Intelligence (CAI) is something we all use. The ability to navigate uncertainty with creativity and values. The difference is whether we use it unconsciously, repeating old patterns, or intentionally, composting what no longer serves us and creating rhythms that move us forward. Naming CAI gives us permission to trust what we already know and apply it with clarity.

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How to Schedule the Right Kind of Nothing

You don’t just need more rest—you need the right kind. From mental fog to creative burnout, not all exhaustion is solved with sleep. In this honest and empowering essay, Jenn shares how Creative Blocking made space for restorative rhythms and why true rest is a leadership move, not a lazy one.

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Planning for Rhythm, Capacity, and Momentum

What if your calendar gave you clarity instead of guilt? Creative Blocking isn’t about squeezing more in. It’s about claiming time for what actually matters. Whether you're clearing the junk drawer or planning a pitch, this rhythm-based approach helps you lead your week without losing yourself.

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Personal and Business Values

Ever looked at a “hell yes” opportunity and felt your gut say, “maybe not”? That’s not self-sabotage. That’s your values calling a meeting.This post unpacks what happens when your strategy wants the spotlight but your soul needs a nap—and how to lead from clarity, not conflict. Because using your personal and business values well? That’s how you grow without ghosting yourself.

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When Reasoning Becomes an Excuse

Sometimes the reasons we give ourselves are rooted in truth—and sometimes they’re just polished-up excuses. This essay explores the subtle power of implicatory denial and how Creative Adaptive Intelligence (CAI) and the C.A.L.M. Framework can help us move from avoidance into sustainable, aligned action—one honest step at a time.

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You’re Not Falling Apart You’re Integrating

Ever felt like your nervous system called a meeting… and forgot to invite your brain?

One minute you’re setting brave boundaries, the next you’re crying in your car over a dropped French fry.
This isn’t you falling apart.

This is integration—messy, holy, necessary integration.
In this post, I unpack what it really means to anchor yourself when the old patterns fall away, the new ones aren’t stable yet, and your soul is whispering, “Keep going—this is the good kind of chaos.”

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Blur the Noise, Find the Focus

When everything feels urgent and nothing gets done, it’s not laziness—it’s overload. In this blog post, Jenn Ocken shares a photographer’s metaphor to help you refocus, reset your priorities, and find clarity in the chaos. One subject, one moment—that’s where the magic lives.

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Rest Is a Leadership Strategy

We’ve been taught to rest only when we’ve earned it—usually by pushing ourselves to the edge. But what if rest isn’t weakness… what if it’s wisdom? In this post, I challenge the hustle narrative and invite you to reclaim rest as a regenerative, leadership-strengthening act. Because clarity, adaptability, and momentum don’t come from burnout—they grow from restoration.

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What If the Goal Isn’t to Fix Yourself

We’ve been taught to speak kindly to ourselves—say the mantra, repeat the affirmation, think positive.
But here’s the thing: Self-affirming isn’t the same as self-accepting. And without acceptance, the affirmations can feel like trying to outrun a shadow.

This blog explores why real self-leadership begins not with fixing—but with facing. It’s for anyone tired of pretending they’re fine when they’re quietly stuck. Ready for a shift that actually sticks? This is where it begins.

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Performing Your Purpose

Have you ever looked around and realized… you’re not living your purpose—you’re performing it? What once felt lit from within now feels like obligation dressed as opportunity. This piece is for the ones who are praised for their purpose but privately depleted by it. It’s a permission slip to pause, a reminder that your presence—not your performance—is what makes your work powerful. Come home to your purpose, imperfect and alive.

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The Creative Return (Part 2)

You don’t need to push harder. You need to return deeper.
This second part of the Creative Return series explores how Creative Adaptive Intelligence (CAI) can gently guide you through overwhelm, procrastination, and perfectionism. CAI doesn’t demand a performance—it invites presence.
With simple examples, powerful reframes, and a soft call to action, this post shows how starting where you are, shifting your questions, and choosing alignment over urgency creates real momentum.

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The Quiet Denial That’s Holding You Back (Part 1)

You’re not lazy or broken—you’re likely caught in implicatory denial. It’s the quiet “not yet” voice that keeps you stuck. This post names it, explains it, and helps you gently return to your creative power. The kind that doesn’t push harder… but roots deeper.

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What Nature Knows

A heartfelt reflection on what nature teaches us about clarity, adaptability, leadership, and momentum. Learn how stillness, softness, and change can guide you back to yourself—again and again—with ease and intention.

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